Richard is an old fashioned type of guy. He doesn't beat around the bush, and can sometimes be a little too honest. A few days ago he told our oldest daughter Shelley that she looked old. How blunt can you get? OK, there are many "things" that old can be measured by. There is lack of ambition, energy, and stamina. The appearance of wrinkles, age spots, and the inability to move due to any number of physical inhabitions. In this case it is Shelley's greying hair. She really has no other visible signs of aging, though she has commented on experiencing some of the more physical aspects.
Early greying seems to run in Richard's family. His oldest brother has had white hair since in his 50s and several of Shelleys cousins are grey. Even her 45 year old brother Rick is turning grey and Richard himself sports a thick head of silver locks.
Now Shelley has been waffling between weather to dye her hair or not for some time. Her husband Eric leans toward her doing so. Perhaps the grey hair makes him feel like he is aging? Some time ago, Shelley started laughing about being asked if she was a senior citizen, even enjoying the benefits of a senior discount on occasion. But when her dad commented on it, it seems to have hit a nerve. Shelley has made an appointment to do the deed, dye her hair.
My take on it is that if looking younger makes you and those around you actually feel younger, "go for it". To me it is not a big deal, but then I have only started to grey around the edges within the last 3 or 4 years, so am not really qualified to judge. My own grey hairs are actually a highlight of silver to my fading golden (red) crown.
I love you Shelley. It does not matter if your hair is grey, brown, or purple.
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